Fred Rogers was a lot of things. Most famously the host of and creative force behind Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood, the Pittsburgh icon was also a vegetarian, lifelong Republican, and Presbyterian minister. He also might have been, according to a recent biography, a bisexual man.
The biography is titled The Good Neighbor: The Life and Work of Fred Rogers. It was written by Maxwell King, the president and CEO of the Pittsburgh Foundation. It was published last September, but the conversation about Rogers’ sexuality is happening now thanks to a Twitter exchange that’s gotten a lot of attention.
On March 3, queer editor and YouTuber Cece Ewing tweeted that, her grandmother, after watching Won’t You Be My Neighbor and reading King’s book, informed her that Mr. Rogers was bisexual. In response, photographer Gabriel Lunesce posted the relevant passage in the form of a screenshot taken from Google Books.
Anyway, wildest thing that’s happened to me lately is when I went to talk to my grandmother and she was like “did you know Mr. Rogers was bisexual? ” and my gay ass, gay of the family, Miss Family Homosexual had to be like “he was WHAT?”
– ProblemsofaBookNerd (@CeceEwing_) March 3, 2019
In the excerpt, longtime Rogers associate Eliot Daley, who produced and wrote scripts for Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood, says that his collaborator “was not a very masculine person, he was not a very feminine person; he was androgynous. ” Anyone who’s watched Rogers on television would have to agree.
King also quotes a New York Times story from 1975, in which he says “I’m not John Wayne, so consequently, for some people, I’m not the model for the man in the house.” His androgyny and lack of machismo meant that those who knew him were often asked if Rogers was gay.
The actual evidence for Rogers’ bisexuality, however, comes from a reference King makes to a conversation Rogers had with his friend William Hirsch, an openly gay psychologist. If sexuality were a scale, Rogers reportedly told Hirsch, “Well, you know, I must be right smack in the middle. Because I have found women attractive, and I have found men attractive. ”
For everyone looking for a citation, it’s in “The Good Neighbor” by King. Screenshot from Google books. pic.twitter.com/XMQxYwPUCX
– Meandering Hermit (@GabrielLunesce) March 5, 2019
Lunesce’s tweet was greeted with glee from Twitter, where many were quick to claim Rogers as the newest hero of the bisexual community.
– Mackenzie Kincaid (@mackincaid) March 5, 2019
That sound you hear across Twitter is the shrieking of a thousand bisexual adults delighted to find out a childhood hero, Mr. Rogers, is one of our own. https://t.co/y6qznWCBqj
– Do not post about crimes. (@KateRoseBee) March 5, 2019
Mister Rogers was bi, pass it on 💕 https://t.co/yr98xfyRBh
– spooky scary Jenn St-Onge (@ princess_jem4) March 5, 2019
Adopting Rogers as a member of the LGBTQ community is tricky, however, given that there is not much evidence he was ever an advocate for that community. Personally, he was not homophobic, but Rogers tended to err on the side of acquiescence over activism when it came to gay rights. King describes how Rogers encouraged François Clemmons, a close friend and actor on the show, to hide his sexuality to help his career. Rogers only changed his advice after homosexuality became more visible after the Stonewall riots.
Then there’s the question of his own actions. King writes that “without exception, close associates concluded that Fred Rogers was absolutely faithful to his marriage vows.” That means that Rogers, who met his wife in his early twenties, likely never had a romantic encounter with a husband or, if he did, that he did not for the last fifty plus years of his life. At most, he was a non-practicing bisexual that never described himself as such using that term in public.
Of course, there are many other reasons to hold Fred Rogers up as a hero. By nearly all accounts, he was an exceptionally decent person who accomplished his goal of making a crass medium humane, one that could do more good than harm to kids. King’s book shows that he also was a thoughtful man who embraced the gay people in his life. That being said, with what we know now, it’s inconclusive as to whether Rogers would have self-identified as a bisexual man.